Imagine your mind as a bustling marketplace, filled with diverse characters. Some are playful and optimistic, while others carry burdens of anger or fear.
This, in essence, is the core of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a therapeutic approach that views our psyche as a community of "parts" working together, often in conflict, to navigate life.
In this blog post, we'll explore the origins and principles of IFS therapy, its applications in various areas of life, what a typical IFS therapy session looks like, and the transformative outcomes you can expect.
I'll also provide a brief overview of how IFS therapy can help with trauma healing, relationships, personal growth, and managing anxiety and depression.
Let's get cracking!
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What is IFS Therapy?
IFS therapy is a transformative and empowering approach to psychotherapy that views the mind as a system of different "parts," each with its own perspective and emotions.
Developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, IFS therapy posits that our inner parts are like a family, with some parts taking on protective roles to guard against pain, while others may hold wounds from past experiences.
Central to IFS therapy is the concept of the Self, a core state of compassion, curiosity, and calmness.
IFS therapy aims to help individuals access this Self to heal and harmonise their internal family, fostering greater self-understanding and emotional balance.
By working with and understanding these parts, clients can address their inner conflicts and achieve lasting personal growth and healing.
It's important to note that IFS Therapy doesn't pathologise having these parts, but rather recognises them as merely a reflection of the multiplicitous nature of our mind.
'Parts' in IFS Therapy
If 'parts' sounds a little confusing, here's a good way to conceptualise it:
The Self
At the centre of this family is the Self, which acts like the compassionate, wise parent. The Self is not a part, but the unchanging essence of you, the observer. You may also consider it as your higher self or soul.
You can identify the Self using the 8 C's: calm, curious, creative, confident, connected, compassionate, clear, and courageous. The goal in IFS therapy is to help the Self take the lead in managing your internal family.
Protector Parts
Protector parts are like older siblings who have taken on the role of keeping the family safe.
They try to prevent pain or danger, often by controlling other parts or avoiding certain situations.
These parts can be divided into two main types:
Managers:
Role: Like a strict older sibling, Managers are preemptive and proactive. They work hard to keep you safe by managing your day-to-day life and preventing any potential harm.
Examples: The inner critic who pushes you to perfection, the taskmaster who drives you to work hard, or the caretaker who ensures you never upset others.
Fire Fighters:
Role: Fire Fighters are like the impulsive older sibling who rushes to put out emotional fires when things get overwhelming. They act quickly to divert your attention from pain, often using drastic measures.
Examples: The part that urges you to overeat, binge-watch TV, or engage in other distracting and numbing activities when you’re stressed.
Exiled Parts
Exiled parts are like the younger, more vulnerable siblings who have been sent to their rooms because their feelings were too painful or disruptive. Your protector parts work hard to shield you from ever encountering your exiled parts.
These parts hold the burdens of past trauma, shame, fear, or hurt.
Role: They carry the raw emotions and memories that the family (your psyche) finds too difficult to face. When triggered, they can flood you with overwhelming emotions.
Examples: The sad, lonely child who felt abandoned, the scared child who felt unsafe, or the ashamed child who felt unworthy.
Understanding the Self and Protective Parts
IFS therapy offers a compassionate lens to understand these parts. It's not about silencing or eliminating any of them, but about recognising their intentions, often rooted in love and protection, even if their actions cause harm.
Through dialogue and gentle exploration, we learn to unburden these parts, allowing our Self to shine through.
How Can IFS Therapy Be Applied?
Its reach extends far beyond the therapist's office. Here are some common areas where IFS therapy can be transformative:
Trauma Healing
IFS therapy helps us understand how past experiences shaped our protective parts. By acknowledging their pain and offering them compassion, we can begin to heal the wounds they were trying to shield us from.
Relationships
IFS therapy fosters healthier connections by helping us recognise our own parts and those of others. We learn to communicate from our Self, setting boundaries and expressing needs without blame or judgment.
Personal Growth
IFS therapy sheds light on internal conflicts holding us back. By befriending our parts and aligning with our Self, we can access hidden strengths and pursue our true passions.
Anxiety and Depression
IFS therapy provides tools to manage overwhelming emotions. We can learn to soothe inner critics, reframe negative thoughts, and cultivate inner peace, leading to reduced anxiety and improved mood.
What Does a Typical IFS Therapy Session Look Like?
Through gentle inquiry, the therapist and client explore current challenges and identify parts holding onto heavy burdens.
With skillful techniques, the therapist opens a safe space for the burdened part to share its pain and experiences.
Together, they delve into the origins, role, and impact of the burden on the client's life.
Through a guided process, the therapist empowers the burdened part to release the pain and negativity associated with its burden.
This may involve practices such as visualisation, journaling, or mindful movement.
As the burdened part unburdens itself, the therapist guides the client towards their core Self, a source of wisdom and compassion.
Finally, they facilitate the integration of the unburdened part with the Self, allowing the client to experience a newfound sense of wholeness and inner peace.
The session concludes with a discussion about the transformative experience, setting goals for continued healing, and scheduling future sessions as needed.
The client is encouraged to check in with the unburdened part over the coming weeks to ensure it is adjusting well and feels seen and supported by the client's Self.
What Outcomes Can You Expect from IFS Therapy?
While every experience is unique, the potential outcomes of IFS therapy are truly empowering.
Individuals report feeling:
Increased self-compassion and understanding: You learn to accept all parts of yourself with love, even the "messy" ones.
Greater clarity and peace: You gain a deeper understanding of your emotions and motivations, leading to calmer inner landscapes.
Improved relationships: You connect with others more authentically, fostering empathy and vulnerability.
Enhanced creativity and productivity: You tap into your full potential as your parts work in harmony, supporting your goals.
A stronger sense of purpose: You connect with the core of who you are and find your unique path in life.
It's important to remember that IFS therapy is a journey, not a destination.
It requires patience, openness, and a willingness to explore the inner world.
But for those who embark on this path, the rewards are immense.
IFS therapy offers a powerful framework for understanding ourselves, healing our wounds, and stepping into a life of authenticity and wholeness.
If you're interested in discovering more about how IFS therapy could benefit your life, book in for a free Discovery Call today!
Additional Resources:
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model - Richard C. Schwartz
You Are the One You've Been Waiting For: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships - Richard C. Schwartz
Introduction to Internal Family Systems: A Revolutionary Therapy for Wholeness & Healing - Richard C. Schwartz
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